Did you know that most New Year’s resolutions don’t last past January 12th?
2020 has been with us for one week. Happy New Year!
I love this time of year, because everyone is so full of hope and determination. It’s almost like it doesn’t matter that you’ve set the exact same goals in 2019. And 2018. And maybe even the year before that.
Doesn’t matter that every year around December you get even more bitter and pissed off at yourself that you’re still not where you want to be… Still working for that jerk, still making that pitiful salary, still not living up to your potential…
Some people are not gonna like this.
Most people don’t like to be shown that Setting & Forgetting is not a good strategy for career-related resolutions (is it good for ANY resolution??). They don’t like to hear that Hoping is not a good strategy, either.
Most people REALLY don’t like to hear that there’s actual work involved in getting to that next level in their career. That to get extraordinary results, they must take extraordinary action.
I’m not saying they need to sell their soul, I’m not even saying it needs to be insurmountably difficult.
But I am asking you to consider: if it hasn’t happened for you until now, why the hell would you believe so hard that without changing what you’re doing, you will get different, better results?
So yeah, this post might get me some haters...
But you know what?
I’m not here to make people feel better momentarily by soothing their ego and telling them “There, there. You’re doing everything you can.” I’m here to make people ACTUALLY better.
Because the truth is, whether you’re acutely tuned into this truth or blissfully unaware of it… It’s still your reality. The shitty boss, the insulting pay, the mind-numbing, soul-sucking-ness of it all.
And by taking a hard look at what happened when you’ve tried to get to that next level job in the past, you can understand a lot about yourself and walk into 2020 with eyes wide open.
Think back to the first week of 2019. What goals and intentions did you set? What resolutions did you make? What were you determined to bring about for yourself?
And what happened?
For the things you managed to get -- how can you replicate that success?
For the things you haven’t managed to get -- what happened? Did you subconsciously give up before you even started? Did fear drive you away from taking real action? Did you just not know what the right thing was to do at any given moment?
I’m not saying this to crush your spirits. I’m not saying you shouldn’t believe in yourself. If you’ve been listening to anything I’ve been saying, you know the exact opposite is true.
But I am saying that it is beneficial, even crucial, to see where things went off track last time (and the time before that, and the time before that…) so you can pick a winning strategy this time around instead of doing the same ol’ thing and just hoping harder.
Most people don't like to hear this stuff, especially not in the midst of the excitement and hope and warm fuzziness of the new year.
But I'm writing this for those of you who read this and hear through those words not only how much I care about making your dreams a reality, but also how possible and deliciously beautiful a reality you can create for yourself, if you just make some changes, take intelligent action, and stay committed.
Let’s make 2020 your year, truly. ❤️